omfg reblogging till the end of time
Tom Hiddleston with kids
This entire story is absolutely despicable. I’ve been sitting here, staring at my screen for the past 15 minutes trying to put into words the absolute disgust and humiliation I feel when I read this. I’m glad that #YesAllwomen is trending on Twitter, I really am. But at the same time it makes me so sad that there even has to BE a trend like this to get guys to wise up.
And don’t even give me the whole, “Not all guys are like that, it’s just assholes like him that paint us in a bad light.” Yes. I know not all guys are like that, but just looking around my city and at the people that I interact with on a daily basis shows me that more and more people are beginning to think that way. I had a friend tell me “Well you are a girl” when I was talking to him about being grabbed at a club. And this was a close friend! We’re supposedly in the era of ‘equality for all,’ these are NOT the results we’re supposed to be seeing.
So, just to clear things up because I’m just a bit confused. Just because I was nice to you, carried a conversation with you but then turned you down when you made a move on me gives you the right to call me a bitch or tease? Or to have someone say I was asking for it because I dressed proactively? Thanks so much for clearing that up and making me realize that it’s me who is in the wrong, not you. Awesome. I can sleep easy at night now.
That type of response is repulsive. I shouldn’t even have to feel the need to try and defend myself to this sort of thing. It doesn’t matter if a girl is wearing the least amount of clothes possible, that still gives a person no right to touch her without her permission. No means no, for BOTH genders.
There shouldn’t have to BE programs at orientations to show girls how to properly defend themselves. There should be NO REASON whatsoever for girls to fear for their safety when walking alone at night. There phrase “What if it was your daughter?” shouldn’t have to exist. And if you think about it, the quote itself is derogatory to women.
I really do fear for the future. And not just because of this issue. Turn on the news on any given day and it’s easy to see the world is going to shit. It’s… as much as it angers me, in the end it just makes me sad.
i love staying up late bc i love nighttime
i hate sleeping in bc i hate wasting my day
and i love sleep bc sleep
do you see my problem
Friendzone ideology isn’t attacked because “nice guys” are comical or because fedoras make a funny meme, it’s because this logic is literally dangerous. This logic of “gentleman = deserving sex” breeds hatred of women, and brutal violence against women, and if a 22 year old self-proclaimed “supreme gentleman” murdering 7 in a campus shooting spree because of sexual rejection doesn’t drive that home, I don’t know what else would.
I think the “women are mysterious” thing can also come from:
1) Women actually being quite clear, but not telling men what they want to hear. ”She said she doesn’t want to talk to me? So many mixed messages and confusing signals!”
2) Women not having cheat codes. ”I tried being nice, and she didn’t have sex with me. I tried being an asshole, and she didn’t have sex with me. Come on, there’s got to be some kind of solution to this puzzle!”
3) Women not being a hive mind. ”First a woman told me that she likes guys with big muscles. Then the very next day a woman told me she thinks muscles aren’t attractive at all. Make up your mind, women!”
4) An individual woman doing something confusing, and instead of asking “why is she doing this now?” men ask “why do women always do this?”
Imagine you’re 16 and you’ve just realized you might be gay. You’re being bullied, so reach out to your school for help – they send you to a chaplain. He says that being gay is a disease and you need to be cured.
Sound outrageous? The Australian government has just decided that’s what should happen in schools all over the country. The Federal Budget was just released with $245 million to send chaplains from anti-gay religious groups into schools instead of qualified social workers.
There’s still a chance to stop it. The Opposition is about to decide if they should pass the budget in full, seek to amend it or block it entirely. If this secret religious agenda doesn’t make headlines, it could be forgotten and passed without debate.
Help raise the alarm and stop tax money from being spent to bully vulnerable students. We only have days.
Join me and sign the petition here
you don’t have to live in Australia to sign this so everybody should be signing it tbh